I am reading The Voice of the Heart by Chip Dodd. He writes, “Many of us were raised in ways that taught us to reject, numb, or hide our hearts. We ended up as adults who don’t know how to use our feelings in order to live fully. Consequently, we don’t know how to handle our woundings except by being more defensive, survival oriented, or self-sufficient. We develop philosophies that excuse our own impairments, and we eventually become wounders ourselves.” What a sobering passage. In an attempt to “guard your heart” from experiencing more pain, you limit your availability and thus wound the heart of those you vow to love. Christian marriage counseling may give you the venue you need to open your heart again. The risk is worth the reward!
Marriage and Family Therapy
