“For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of” (Luke 6:46). How do you apply the intent of others words in your life? Do you receive them with appreciation, or do you add a filter of judgment or ill will? Does a simple gesture of your partner feel like a stab at your vulnerability? Was it meant that way or are you quick to take offense? All too often the intentions of a spouse to love their mate are thwarted by the recipient’s belief system. A “how can I love you today” is heard as a negative attack! How can this be? Could it be self-doubt or unforgiveness has deafened our ears to love? If you receive the message with a negative intent and react accordingly, the person trying to love you with a kindness then becomes hurt or offended by your reaction…and so the anger-anger dance begins.
During Premarital Therapy » sessions we look at how the differences of the couple could be received with additional negative connotations. In Couple Therapy » sessions, accepting responsibility of our contribution to whatever distance has come between us is a first step towards reconciliation and restoration. Therapy is like a marital Otolaryngologists (an ear doctor removing years of wax build-up) to clarify your hearing.
Marriage and Family Therapy
